Do People Seek Therapy?
into therapy for many reasons. Some need help
responding to unexpected changes and crisis
in their lives, while others have a need for
self-exploration and personal growth. When our
usual way of coping is ineffective we may seek
other means of easing our discomfort. Therapy
can provide support, problem-solving skills,
and a new way of viewing our situation. The
discomfort you experience may show up in numerous
ways such as depression, anxiety, numbing or
lack of emotion, lack of confidence, guilt,
relationship issues, unresolved childhood issues,
bereavement, spiritual conflicts, stress, body
image issues and creative blocks. Therapy is
most effective when the client is willing to
take responsibility for their actions and become
Can I Expect In A Psychological Therapy Session?
During a session,
you have the opportunity to talk about the primary
concerns and issues in your life. A session
lasts approximately 50 minutes. You may request
a longer session. Depending on your stress level
and means of payment, weekly sessions are often
beneficial in the beginning. When in crisis
or extreme distress, more than one session per
week may be necessary. During the time between
sessions it is beneficial to think about and
process your thoughts and feelings about the
session. I may recommend homework to be completed
between therapy sessions; such as reading material,
journaling and keeping records. For therapy
to most effectively, you must be willing to
be actively involved, both in and outside of
the therapy sessions.
Benefits Can I Expect From Working With A Therapist?
A number of
benefits are possible from participating in
psychological therapy. Often it is helpful just
to have someone listen to you - without judging
or taking sides. Therapy can provide a new perspective
on difficult issues and relief from overwhelming
emotions. Occasionally, as we explore different
parts of your life, you may be surprised to
find yourself experiencing strong emotions over
seemingly forgotten or old issues. This is not
uncommon and is often helpful in uncovering
feelings of being stuck. Many people find therapy
to be a tremendous asset to managing personal
growth, interpersonal relationships, family
concerns, and the stresses of daily living.
The benefits of therapy depends upon your readiness
to confront the issues in your life and your
willingness to practice what you learn.
Some of the benefits available
from psychological therapy include . . .
a better understanding of yourself and your
personal goals and values.
skills for improving your relationships
resolution to the issues or concerns that
led you to seek therapy.
new ways to cope with stress and anxiety.
anger, depression and other emotional pressures.
communications skills - learning how to
listen to others, and have others listen
"unstuck" from unhealthy patterns
- breaking old behaviors and developing
new ways to solve problems.
your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence.
greater intimacy in relationships.
a clearer understanding of who you are.
Passion for living.
sense of freedom.
sense of self empowerment.
understanding of self.
to take good care of yourself.
to love yourself as you are.
If I Don't Know What My goals Are For Psychological/Behavioral
It is not unusual
for people to come into therapy unclear about
what it is that they really want or expect.
Initially, most people come to therapy in crisis
- you want the crisis to go away - you feel
helpless and you want control of your life back!
The goal at this stage is to provide you with
the tools that will help you to get through
When the crisis
is over and/or you have a handle on it, you
may think your work is done. Some people will
stop therapy at that point, thinking that they
got what they needed. They are now feeling able
to survive, often until the next crisis.
If you want
more than mere survival - if you are feeling
dissatisfied with life, if you are noticing
negative patterns in yourself and your relationships
and wonder if there is a better way, if you
are motivated to see that life can be different
for you - this is where the real work begins.